Dear one, is your heart heavy with fear for others? Do you worry about your family?
You can help them without depleting yourself by seeing and witnessing their power, their strengths their capabilities, their talents, and reflecting this back to them in words and actions.
You are saying to them – “I know you can do this… I know you are capable… I know you can figure this out… this is what I’ve seen in you before…” This is gentle coaching – leading by example – inspiring those around you.
GCW in winter
Let them know you trust them to step up to the plate and do what needs to be done. Your job is not to rescue, or save, but to be a light, to shine a light for them.
When you feel the familiar fear, go inward and feel it in your body. It might be a tightening in your heart, a resistance in your throat, a roiling in your belly. Pay attention to your feelings with love. Breathe deeply for a few moments and allow yourself to be fully present to your body’s signals.
Feel your fear. “Give it your compassionate attention.” – Pema Chodron
This will help you find the courage to tune into the power within you. Go deep into the living well of your life force and draw up the strength and fortitude and will to heal your life! Even though you feel fear, you can shine brightly and stand in your power.
You teach by example! Those you worried about in the past can learn to stand in their own power, reach deep within themselves and find the resources to thrive.
Dear ones, with some practice and patience, you can learn to communicate with loved ones across the miles. Yes, I know your shiny blinking and beeping object with the glowing screen does that already…
I speak of love, of real heart to heart deep energetic communication. I do not speak of easy words! or emojis! or trite phrases! The communication I speak of is so much deeper and touches the heart and soul.
Milkweed pods and seeds
To begin, drop your awareness down into your heart. Breathe several times, in and out of your heart, releasing any static or clouds. Do you feel love in your heart? Do you feel peace? Do you feel calm? If so, bring an image of your loved one to mind as best you can. (If you’re feeling angry, fearful, or unhappy try again later when you feel differently.) Maybe it is a picture of them, maybe you see a piece of paper with their name written down, maybe you smell their perfume and feel their presence. However you perceive them is OK!
Now ask a beautiful clear light to shine on them and through them. See and feel them with a loving heart, no judgment, and kind regard. Your energy is communicating with their energy. Simple breathe, and let the light shine as long as you wish.
GCW and brilliant yellow leaf
I speak of sending love to your grandchildren when you perceive they need a boost. I speak of holding your spouse in the light when you want to give them your support. I speak of blessing your child when she’s far away. I speak of sending light to a disabled elder. I speak of opening your heart to those you know are suffering, placing the situation in the hands of the divine.
In this way, you can make a real positive difference in your life and the lives of others.
Do you spend precious moments wishing you were somewhere else, doing something else?
Grandmother Cottonwood, fall color
Do you tighten the interior of your body as you do this – perhaps your throat or your heart?
Pay attention to the subtle ways you shut down the flow of energy through your body and withdraw your attention from what is while avoiding the present moment. Do not feel singled out, Dear one, for all humans do this.
Your impatience with what is has distracted you from your beautiful life, made up of moments just like this. This is your life! Life provides you with many chances to shift your focus and come into the power of your present moment each day.
Remedy this shutting down of your energy by giving attention to your inner world of feeling, sensation, muscle bone and blood, the subtle opening and closing, the inhale and exhale, pain and ease, contraction, expansion, warmth and coolness. The sensations of your body create a window for you to experience this present moment, to slow down, to be here now.
Will you reach the moment of your death and know that you were too impatient to be fully present for yourself and your beloved ones? Or will you choose to live fully embodied? Bring your awareness down into your body and live in this moment!
Grandparents know the amazing expansion of the heart while holding their precious new loved one. They hold this tiny new family member close, matching the rhythms of their heart and breath, breathing in and basking in the glow of the amazing spirit in their arms.
Grandparents remember that this little one has chosen to make an appearance, to grace the family with their precious, priceless presence.
Grandparents are given the change to accept without judgment, bathing the child in the heart energy of pure love and light, and feeling in return the grace of pure spirit, knowing the child is perfect as they are.
Grandparents are given the most sacred chance in life, to love unconditionally, to learn how to love in a new way than ever before at a deeper level than they have ever known. Grandparents are given the chance to expand into more and become more, through love.
Your grandchild is a tiny piece of all that is, a message from the universe: All is well, All is love, Life is good. You and the earth herself are blessed by this greatly beloved new spirit.
Have others defined success for you? Do you subscribe to the popular view that bigger and more is better?
How do you define success? Is it a big house and three car garage in the fashionable part of town? Is it a stressful high powered career in which you get to boss others? Is it lots of money in the bank?
Is your definition of success winning at your game of choice? Are their losers in your game?
Is your idea of success feeling happy in the life you’ve chosen? Is it thriving in the place you’ve chosen, doing what makes you heart sing, feeling comfortable in your body? Is it having time to relax and enjoy your family and friends; the simple but soul satisfying moments of a life well lived?
Decide what matters to you, what success is to you. Take the time to quiet your mind and get in touch with your inner spirit, beyond thought. Your heart will know the truth.
You are the master of your life, your time, your energy. You choose how to spend these most precious resources. Spend them wisely! Spend them in support of a life that satisfies your soul!
Worry is like a thick gray cloud around your mind and heart; a self-generated fog machine.
Dear ones, worry wears you down, ages you dims your clarity and light, weakens you.
If you are worried, you are not living in the present. You are living in your head projecting scenarios and events which will most likely never occur, which you most likely have no power over!
In short, you are wasting your time and energy when you worry! You are scaring yourself with self manufactured drama for no good reason.
If you are worried about the future, get the facts you need to solve your problems and face them head on! Take informed action within your locus of control. Make plans based on the facts. Set boundaries within your circle of influence. Live in the here and now.
Inhabit your body, place awareness on your feelings, sensations, your senses, the flow of life through your body, the natural world around you. Come into the here and now where your power lies!
Have you read that caring for others is the highest good? This refrain has been repeated so often with such piety that many believe this to be gospel! To be a saint is to deny the self and care for others, to sacrifice your own desires for others.
I am here to tell you that this idea must be questioned and tested. Your true purpose comes from within and cannot be imposed upon you by others, or by some rules and codes of conduct devised in ancient times.
The highest good in life is to be fully yourself, to line up with your purpose, your light and power. Perhaps your divine purpose is to be a light for others to help guide them… and perhaps your true purpose does not involve caring for others.
Dear ones, you can help others, if you are called to do so, by allowing them to access and know their own power, to discern their purpose, to draw on their own inner resources. You job is not to hold others up with your own strength or to rescue or to save them.
You are to line up with your light first and foremost. In this way, you will find your true and sacred purpose. Do this and you will thrive! Those closest to you will thrive as well!
Sometimes you feel you must go it alone when the drama, the unhappiness of others seems to drag you down and pull you into their vortex of fear and negativity. They drain your energy and leave you like an empty shell. Allowing this, my dears, is not “love” or caring.
Your central task is to maintain your energy, know your power and align with the source of your creation. The energy vampires will not like this!
Bird on thorny locust tree
It is not your job to make them happy, to rescue them from unhappiness, to smooth things over and put on a happy face for them.
You were set firmly down in this time space reality to shine your light fully, to be truly yourself. Anyone that diminishes you is not your friend!
As you gain clarity, focus and empowerment, those of like mind and heart will be drawn to you like a magnet. And your life will thrive!
Your bodies may age, your hair my grow gray, your skin my retain the creases of your habitual facial expressions. You may move slower than before. Your children may be adults already and have their own children. You may wonder how you got to this point in your life!
Make no mistake! The invisible soul, spirit, and energy of your being is forever fresh, young and full of passion and enthusiasm, delighted to be here in a body. Your spirit is indestructible, gaining wisdom, knowing, and expansion from lifetime to lifetime without end.
Dead branch – Grandmother Cottonwood
Can you allow your wise self to be a witness to your body for a few moments, and see without judgment the arc of your physical life- from infant to toddler, small child, adolescent, young adult, parent, middle aged, older grandparent, elder, aged, and even then on your death bed? Can you see and know yourself as a free spirit unencumbered by a body? You are all this and more!
Your body is a vehicle for the spirit, limited in time and space. This is so you may focus on the blessings, the challenges, the desires, the conditions of this life, for the advancement, the education and expansion of your soul.
Do you get pulled like a magnet to the agenda and needs of others or do you set your own course and steer according to your stars?
Cardinal in winter
You may think it is kind and loving to help, to support, to sacrifice your goals and dreams, your unrepeatable moments for the sake of others. But my dear, when you focus so fully on others, you are not living in the magnificent current of power and light that is your birthright, your highest good. Those you sacrifice for will never know their true power or inner strength.
My dear ones, decide what you can do for your family, friends, loved ones without resentment, without giving up your dreams, without becoming a shadow of who you are meant to be.
Yes, there may be times you must focus on helping others when they are in crisis, but those times must not eclipse and overwhelm your commitment to yourself.
Focus on your dearest dreams, goals and inspirations first. Do for others in ways that strengthen you and them. If you feel depleted, you are giving too much.
The source of all being has plans for you that coincide with your deepest desires. Let your divine purpose be the central focus of your life.