Do you resist reality?

Every season, every feeling, every kind of weather, every person in your world has their place in the great panorama of your life. If you feel irritated, unhappy, too cold, too hot, too wet, too dry, if you are blocked by snowstorms, that is simply your reality in the moment.

Do you push your current reality from your mind and curse the weather, wishing the sun would shine, the snow melt? Do you try to avoid the irritating person and pretend they aren’t part of your daily landscape?

Do you resist what is and hope for better things and nicer people? Do you believe the fiction that cold weather is bad, that winter is awful?

In this way, your monkey mind sets you up for unhappiness. Can you take a step back from the whirling thoughts and simply accept what is – the weather, the people, the conditions? …and that they are not going away any time soon?

Can you gradually learn to stop the resistance against what is? It takes a lot of your precious energy to push back against reality day after day, year after year.

When you slow & stop the resistance and live in the pure present moment without judgment, life flows more easily.  More energy is available to you to do those things you enjoy.

Of course, I am not advocating staying with an abuser or putting up with misbehavior or dangerous conditions. Do what you can to free yourself if you are stuck in these patterns, and work to change the unhealthy conditions you have some control over.

As you get out of your head and into the present moments of your life, feel the change in you!

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Home to your heart

When you return home after a long trip or a day at work, or hours of rushing around doing errands, you can relax, be yourself, let down your guard.

At home you can do whatever you want to – wear sweat pants, drink right out of the milk carton, sing out of tune at top volume, feel what you feel.

At home you can lay on the ground under a tree in your yard, watching the branches sway, the shifting shade. You can ignore your to-do list for weeks, if you want to.

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Squirrel with a walnut

Likewise when you’re living in the past or future, when you’re hooked by feelings that drag you down, when you’re worried about problems in your life, you can come home to your heart and breath.

Place your palms over your heart and breathe. Bring awareness to your heart and chest  Relax into the rhythm and familiarity of your heartbeat, your inhalation and exhalation.

This is your calm place in a storm, a safe and peaceful home that is always with you. This is the haven where you regain your center and find clarity. 

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Your heart and breath offer a loving space where you can be yourself, can feel what you feel. In this place you can rest and go inward, you can be fully yourself and know the truth of who you are without having to defend or bargain, with no embarrassment or worry.

Come back home to your heart!

Teach by example

Dear one, is your heart heavy with fear for others?  Do you worry about your family? 

You can help them without depleting yourself by seeing and witnessing their power, their strengths their capabilities, their talents, and reflecting this back to them in words and actions.

You are saying to them – “I know you can do this… I know you are capable… I know you can figure this out… this is what I’ve seen in you before…”  This is gentle coaching – leading by example – inspiring those around you.

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GCW in winter

Let them know you trust them to step up to the plate and do what needs to be done.  Your job is not to rescue, or save, but to be a light, to shine a light for them.

When you feel the familiar fear, go inward and feel it in your body.  It might be a tightening in your heart, a resistance in your throat, a roiling in your belly.  Pay attention to your feelings with love.  Breathe deeply for a few moments and allow yourself to be fully present to your body’s signals.

Feel your fear. “Give it your compassionate attention.” – Pema Chodron

This will help you find the courage to tune into the power within you.  Go deep into the living well of your life force and draw up the strength and fortitude and will to heal your life! Even though you feel fear, you can shine brightly and stand in your power. 

You teach by example!  Those you worried about in the past can learn to stand in their own power, reach deep within themselves and find the resources to thrive.

Take a news vacation

Dear hearts, are you addicted to the news?

I challenge you to turn off the 24/7 news. the constant drumbeat of events reported in minute detail, argued over, rehashed, replayed. This can serve to drag you down! The authoritative voices, the selection of stories can keep your thinking boxed in and contained right where they want you to be.

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A news message from Grandmother Cottonwood

This kind of program scares the living daylights out of many and promotes fear and loathing and ratings. Fear can spread through a population like a virus or wildfire, taking many down, dimming their light, obscuring their power, keeping them small, manipulating them into anger!

Do not allow the tentacles of fear from around the globe to penetrate your heart and mind. When the world was young, it was not possible to know what was happening ten miles away, let alone across the globe in the most obscure location until days, weeks, months or even years later….Now it is in your face all the time! It is so much more than you need to know! You are meant to confront and deal with the conditions and emotions of your life and your circle of influence in the here and now.

Of course, there are advantages to knowing what is happening at times. You want to be an informed citizen… Can you find a neutral source of news that does not seek to manipulate your emotions? 

Especially if you are an empath, a sensitive person, please do not take on the crushing emotional burdens of others that this sort of news coverage promotes. It will only deplete and weaken you and keep you stuck .

Take a news vacation. Let the toxic energy clear out of your home and life and body. See how you feel after a week or two… turn your focus and energy to your own projects, plans, dreams, your own clarity and mental, emotional, spiritual, and physical health. Strengthen and empower yourself.

Know this! When you stand in your power, aligned with source, you are a force for good on our planet! This is what you can do to help change the world!

Heal yourself, heal the world

“World Peace” begins in your heart and mind. It begins with you! Yes, that does sound pretty trite, doesn’t it? But you will see and feel that it is true.

When you find true peace and healing in your heart, when you’ve cleared away the clouds that darken your life and find forgiveness for those who’ve hurt you, you become the center of a ripple effect. The web of life of which you are an integral part begins to heal as well.

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Black and white butterfly

It is so much easier to point the finger at others, especially those awful people you see on the news every day, ranting and raving or those groups that set your teeth on edge. It is easier to blame than confront the hurt, fear, anger, abuse, depression, and sadness of your own life and family and its effects on you.

Maybe you can’t go over to the Middle East and make those people see reason and stop the violence, but you can work to heal the warring in your own family.  You can speak up to heal injustice in groups you belong to.  You can consult your heart and do what you know needs to be done to heal the web of your own life.

The healing begins within when you decide you want to be whole again. Yes, it is difficult! But what is the alternative?

You cannot escape your energy!  You must transform it!

Your transformed energy ripples outward beyond your physical boundaries and all who are connected to you will feel and respond to your new vibrations. It will inspire some to seek their own healing. Some others may not be pleased, but that’s OK, for it only takes a small percentage of people to transform their energy and create a large change in the world!

As more people find true healing, the renewed web of life transforms our Earth into a safer, more peaceful place for all living creatures to make their home.

How does your garden grow?

As you live, you sow seeds that will root and grow long after your spirit has left your body. You are the master gardener of your life! You get to decide what to cultivate and what to weed out and throw on the compost pile.

Humans like you put out seeds through ideas, thoughts, words, actions, your vibrations and the tone of your feelings. Do you sow seeds of connection or division? Fear or love? Empowerment for others, or control of others? Do you sow seeds of indifference or passion? You get to choose!

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Jack-in-the-pulpit berries

When you think and send loving thoughts, you plant a seed. When you smile at another person, you plant a seed. When you put others down, you plant a seed. When you blame others you plant a seed.

When you denigrate yourself, you plant a seed. When you allow yourself to be less than you know you can be, you plant a seed.

Now I ask you: How does your garden grow? Is your garden one of fear, self doubt, dis-empowerment? Or is your garden seeded with peace, calm, confidence, love affirmation for yourself and others?

What legacy to you wish to leave your loved ones and the others who inhabit and inherit this planet? The seeds you plant today will make a difference for years to come! You get to choose!

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Silver Maple seeds

Begin your garden planning now. If you’ve grown crops that felt thorny and inedible in the past, you get to start over. Think about what you want to grow. Look at the old weeds and unwanted seedlings with love as you weed them. Let them fuel your compost pile and fertilize new growth!

Plant only those seeds that lift you up! Tend your garden with loving care, and your harvest will delight and inspire you and future generations!

Have you been touched by frost?

Late autumn frosts come with lace edged beauty, cruelly cutting down grasses and wildflowers, insects, tender life forms. But frost cannot destroy those living perennial roots deep underground that sleep in their dark bed of soil.

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Frosty wildflower leaves

If you have lived more than a few decades on this planet, you have known the icy fingers of frost. You have experienced the tender green shoots of life frozen by loss, hurt, trauma, betrayal…

When you fear all is lost after a freeze, life springs again from your roots, sending green shoots and leaves toward the light.  New life and growth and inspiration gives you new energy, new hope and courage to reclaim your power.

If your heart still beats in your chest, your roots can gather strength and you will live fully once again.

Dear one, you must have patience and allow the season of winter its full due. Take heart. Winter is a season of life, a part of each soul’s journey no matter where you live.

If you’ve been touched by frost, let yourself rest, conserve energy, let your roots gather nourishment and strength . Come spring you will feel and know the new growth within you, unfolding, reaching toward the light, inspiring you to live fully!

Who are you?

Beneath the trappings, the makeup, daily rituals, the job, your knick-knacks and belongings, your culturally approved clothing, your shiny phone, who are you?

At the center of your being, the heart and soul of you… Beneath the layers of manners and civilization, deeper than your book learning, your schooling, your domestication, who are you?

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Cardinal in winter

Continue to peel the layers away as you go inward.  Search for what lies underneath the surface veneer of your life.  At your deepest  level, Who are you? What is your soul’s purpose here on Earth?

If you get the answer: “My purpose is to make a lot of money!”, try again…That might be a secondary benefit resulting from your alignment with your purpose and mission.  You might be good at it, it might feel good, but you must dig even deeper!

What treasures lie hidden or dimly remembered in your heart? Can you bring them to the light and tap into that deep well of passion, inspiration and inner power that will enrich and satisfy your spirit and fuel your life?

When  you tap into your depths you will discover a deep well of life within you!  The abundance of spirit is so much more than you could ever imagine! 

 

Fear

Has fear settled into your heart and mind? It can suck your soul right out of your body, drain your hope, distract you from your life’s purpose, rob your of happiness, turn you against your friends, sap your strength, and dim your light.

When you gain perspective on your fears, you will learn to discern the false fear of the mind that keeps you debilitated and small, and the real fear of the body and instincts that will keep you safe and help you act when real danger threatens you.

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Wary squirrel

Some would use false fear as a weapon of mass disempowerment. A weapon to keep you in line, to control and contain and diminish your spirit.

Dear ones, I ask you to gather your courage, to call back your power, the inner spiritual power that fuels your life, and look the fear right in the eye. See it for what it is – a product of the mind and ego.

Will you do what you are called to do? Will you acknowledge your fear, then speak confidently in front of a large group, travel to a foreign land, apply for a new job, or speak out when an injustice has occurred? Will you share your gifts with others even though you may be ridiculed? Will you stand up for those who are weaker than you? Will you speak your truth to the powerful?

Like the “Great and Powerful Oz”, when you pull back the curtain, you will see and know the fear for a puff of smoke that’s been magnified and blown out of proportion. You will discover that it is an illusion that will fade when brought to the light and examined.

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Monarch butterfly

You are larger than your fear! Gather your courage, spread your wings, and live fully!

Tune into your body

Do you resist the messages of your body?

Do you suppress tears that want to flow, stay in your chair when your body screams “Get up and move!”? Do you force yourself to stay awake when you need rest? Do you stay in bed when you know your body need to be upright and moving? Do you stifle creative expression, hold back healing sounds and movements your body wants and needs to make? Do you continue eating when you are full? Do you live in your head?

Do you feel that your physical being is the enemy? If so, you have been trained to ignore and suppress your lifelong best friend and messenger, your body.

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Happy kid!

When you slowly learn to pay attention to your body again like you did as a young child… you will become aware of the signals as your body alerts you to danger. You will become aware of your own inner “radar” system that will help you navigate through life more smoothly. You will understand through your body’s feelings, emotions, pain, hunger, thirst and subtle sensations that you need to know in the moment for your well-being.

As you become more aware of your body and its needs its rhythms, you can learn to loosen up little by little to free flow, spontaneous expression, full experience. You will feel lighter, freer, happier.

If you’ve been taught to deny yourself full experience of living in your body and feeling what you feel, your energy flow can be re-established. 

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Playful kid!

Then, once again, like your younger child self, you can live fully happily and harmoniously in your magnificent and joyful body.