Do you tie yourself in knots, bend backwards, reach out beyond your comfort zone into a state of anxiety and discomfort for any reason?
Do you fear that others will suffer if you do not put in superhuman efforts to “save” them? If so, you are over-reaching. Your circle of influence and power can only include yourself and your small children if you have them.
You can plant seeds for others with your words and actions, but you cannot make them grow. You can be an example with your own grounding, centering and focus, but you cannot make others “get it”.
No matter how much you love another adult, it is not your job to save them from themselves, show them “the way”, correct them, control or command them.
Others may learn from your example, or they may not. Focus on you and your precious life!
Use your mighty power of focus and your alignment with source to find your own way. Correct your own course when you waver. Focus your attention on your own thoughts, words, and actions. If a change is needed, take action and do what is required.