Dear one, is your heart heavy with fear for others? Do you worry about your family?
You can help them without depleting yourself by seeing and witnessing their power, their strengths their capabilities, their talents, and reflecting this back to them in words and actions.
You are saying to them – “I know you can do this… I know you are capable… I know you can figure this out… this is what I’ve seen in you before…” This is gentle coaching – leading by example – inspiring those around you.
GCW in winter
Let them know you trust them to step up to the plate and do what needs to be done. Your job is not to rescue, or save, but to be a light, to shine a light for them.
When you feel the familiar fear, go inward and feel it in your body. It might be a tightening in your heart, a resistance in your throat, a roiling in your belly. Pay attention to your feelings with love. Breathe deeply for a few moments and allow yourself to be fully present to your body’s signals.
Feel your fear. “Give it your compassionate attention.” – Pema Chodron
This will help you find the courage to tune into the power within you. Go deep into the living well of your life force and draw up the strength and fortitude and will to heal your life! Even though you feel fear, you can shine brightly and stand in your power.
You teach by example! Those you worried about in the past can learn to stand in their own power, reach deep within themselves and find the resources to thrive.
Set aside your fear – the fear that keeps you small, keeps you invisible, keeps you from your light and power. Tuck it in, kiss it goodnight, read it a bedtime story. Now shut the door to the room where your ego fear resides and go on about your business of living in your full power.
Grandmother Cottonwood’s gift
Your ego fear is the voice of your past, trying to keep you safe, comfortable, perhaps invisible and small. It means well… but you have outgrown it!
When you speak and communicate with your ego fear, do you use confident clear language – or do you sound tentative, indecisive, unsure of yourself? Remember that you are the boss, the parent. Your wise self is meant to be in control.
Let the fear know you hear it, feel it, understand it, as you would an anxious child. Let it know you will still do what you mean to do. You will do what needs to be done, what you have been called to do whether the fear agrees or not.
You live in the here and now! In the past, your fear was warranted, it may have been needed for physical and emotional survival.
Now that you are an adult, find compassion for the fear from your past that tries to keep you small. Acknowledge it, feel it, then step into your power and shine your light!