Emotional healing I

Note from Betty: Dear friends, GCW has a lot to say about emotional healing this month. This and the next two posts are variations on that theme.

Dear ones, do not carry the past forward, for it will accumulate and pile up like thunderheads on a windy spring day. It will weigh you down more and more as you grow older.

Let each moment of your life be new. Let the moments of yesterday, last year, decades ago be healed and released. Do not carry the old stale feelings forward for they will taint your present moments.

To let them go, feel them, experience them for that is to live fully in the moment. Listen to your body, do a scan and notice where you feel the emotion. It could be your throat, heart, gut… anywhere.

There is no need to blast a person you are angry with. Anger and other strong emotions need not be harmful to you or others. Use it as fuel for a passionate life!

Love yourself and feel what you feel. You can use your voice to express the emotion, to safely and privately release.

If you let yourself experience your emotions in your body then you will not carry it forward into your future as a dark storm cloud waiting to burst when you least expect it.

Let each moment of your life be sacred as you pay attention to what you are feeling with compassion and self love.

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Tap into your light, power, and oneness

When it is dark, do you remember that you yourself are a source of light?

When you feel powerless, do you remember that your power lies within?

When you feel alone, do you remember that you are one with all of life?

When you are aligned with source, your light can bring you peace, show you the best way forward, help you define your life’s purpose, show you what is most important for you to focus on during your sojourn here with your precious limited time.

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Knowing that you are a source of light will help you let go of the fluff, the trivia in your life and do what you came here to do.

When you call back and tap into your inner power, you will begin to move through fears that limit and stifle you. Your power will help you move forward in life with clarity, take action in the physical world that will bless you and others

Knowing your oneness and connection with all of life means you have constant guidance and spirit at your side. You will know your integral part in the web of life and that you belong here, you are needed wanted, and desired here!

You will no longer question your existence or if you have a right to take up space, breathe the air and use the water. You know will know in your heart that you’re not alone.

Bless yourself by tapping into your light, power and oneness and you bless yourself and all the earth.

Do you resist reality?

Every season, every feeling, every kind of weather, every person in your world has their place in the great panorama of your life. If you feel irritated, unhappy, too cold, too hot, too wet, too dry, if you are blocked by snowstorms, that is simply your reality in the moment.

Do you push your current reality from your mind and curse the weather, wishing the sun would shine, the snow melt? Do you try to avoid the irritating person and pretend they aren’t part of your daily landscape?

Do you resist what is and hope for better things and nicer people? Do you believe the fiction that cold weather is bad, that winter is awful?

In this way, your monkey mind sets you up for unhappiness. Can you take a step back from the whirling thoughts and simply accept what is – the weather, the people, the conditions? …and that they are not going away any time soon?

Can you gradually learn to stop the resistance against what is? It takes a lot of your precious energy to push back against reality day after day, year after year.

When you slow & stop the resistance and live in the pure present moment without judgment, life flows more easily.  More energy is available to you to do those things you enjoy.

Of course, I am not advocating staying with an abuser or putting up with misbehavior or dangerous conditions. Do what you can to free yourself if you are stuck in these patterns, and work to change the unhealthy conditions you have some control over.

As you get out of your head and into the present moments of your life, feel the change in you!

Home to your heart

When you return home after a long trip or a day at work, or hours of rushing around doing errands, you can relax, be yourself, let down your guard.

At home you can do whatever you want to – wear sweat pants, drink right out of the milk carton, sing out of tune at top volume, feel what you feel.

At home you can lay on the ground under a tree in your yard, watching the branches sway, the shifting shade. You can ignore your to-do list for weeks, if you want to.

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Squirrel with a walnut

Likewise when you’re living in the past or future, when you’re hooked by feelings that drag you down, when you’re worried about problems in your life, you can come home to your heart and breath.

Place your palms over your heart and breathe. Bring awareness to your heart and chest  Relax into the rhythm and familiarity of your heartbeat, your inhalation and exhalation.

This is your calm place in a storm, a safe and peaceful home that is always with you. This is the haven where you regain your center and find clarity. 

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Your heart and breath offer a loving space where you can be yourself, can feel what you feel. In this place you can rest and go inward, you can be fully yourself and know the truth of who you are without having to defend or bargain, with no embarrassment or worry.

Come back home to your heart!

Teach by example

Dear one, is your heart heavy with fear for others?  Do you worry about your family? 

You can help them without depleting yourself by seeing and witnessing their power, their strengths their capabilities, their talents, and reflecting this back to them in words and actions.

You are saying to them – “I know you can do this… I know you are capable… I know you can figure this out… this is what I’ve seen in you before…”  This is gentle coaching – leading by example – inspiring those around you.

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GCW in winter

Let them know you trust them to step up to the plate and do what needs to be done.  Your job is not to rescue, or save, but to be a light, to shine a light for them.

When you feel the familiar fear, go inward and feel it in your body.  It might be a tightening in your heart, a resistance in your throat, a roiling in your belly.  Pay attention to your feelings with love.  Breathe deeply for a few moments and allow yourself to be fully present to your body’s signals.

Feel your fear. “Give it your compassionate attention.” – Pema Chodron

This will help you find the courage to tune into the power within you.  Go deep into the living well of your life force and draw up the strength and fortitude and will to heal your life! Even though you feel fear, you can shine brightly and stand in your power. 

You teach by example!  Those you worried about in the past can learn to stand in their own power, reach deep within themselves and find the resources to thrive.

Be true to yourself!

Do you armor yourself against life’s hurts? Do you protect your vulnerable soft center from anyone seeing or knowing you fully? Have childhood experiences taught you to be tough, hold in the tears, project a calm and smiling face to the world when you feel pain and discomfort?

Your inner and outer selves must match for full happiness, full soul satisfaction, full participation in life. Be honest with yourself about what you are feeling and thinking, if only privately.  You separate yourself from source when you pretend to feel something you do not feel.

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Oaks trees in late fall

Do you present a strong and tough image to others when you feel weak and scared inside? Do you put on a happy and smiling face when you feel sad or angry or threatened?  Do you act interested when you are checked out, outraged when you really don’t care, indifferent when you care passionately,  loving and kind when you want to scream and throw things…?

When you lie to yourself, others will sense the falsehood because your energy doesn’t lie and cannot ever lie!  Others will sense what is true beneath the surface show, and respect you more when you allow the real you to shine through in your words and actions.

When you know and live the truth of who you are, you pave the way for real lasting relationships based on reality, not on an illusion that requires you to expend great effort to keep up, like the “great and powerful” Wizard of Oz.

When you are true to yourself, you light up!  The truth of who you really are at your center will shine through.

Take a news vacation

Dear hearts, are you addicted to the news?

I challenge you to turn off the 24/7 news. the constant drumbeat of events reported in minute detail, argued over, rehashed, replayed. This can serve to drag you down! The authoritative voices, the selection of stories can keep your thinking boxed in and contained right where they want you to be.

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A news message from Grandmother Cottonwood

This kind of program scares the living daylights out of many and promotes fear and loathing and ratings. Fear can spread through a population like a virus or wildfire, taking many down, dimming their light, obscuring their power, keeping them small, manipulating them into anger!

Do not allow the tentacles of fear from around the globe to penetrate your heart and mind. When the world was young, it was not possible to know what was happening ten miles away, let alone across the globe in the most obscure location until days, weeks, months or even years later….Now it is in your face all the time! It is so much more than you need to know! You are meant to confront and deal with the conditions and emotions of your life and your circle of influence in the here and now.

Of course, there are advantages to knowing what is happening at times. You want to be an informed citizen… Can you find a neutral source of news that does not seek to manipulate your emotions? 

Especially if you are an empath, a sensitive person, please do not take on the crushing emotional burdens of others that this sort of news coverage promotes. It will only deplete and weaken you and keep you stuck .

Take a news vacation. Let the toxic energy clear out of your home and life and body. See how you feel after a week or two… turn your focus and energy to your own projects, plans, dreams, your own clarity and mental, emotional, spiritual, and physical health. Strengthen and empower yourself.

Know this! When you stand in your power, aligned with source, you are a force for good on our planet! This is what you can do to help change the world!

Heal yourself, heal the world

“World Peace” begins in your heart and mind. It begins with you! Yes, that does sound pretty trite, doesn’t it? But you will see and feel that it is true.

When you find true peace and healing in your heart, when you’ve cleared away the clouds that darken your life and find forgiveness for those who’ve hurt you, you become the center of a ripple effect. The web of life of which you are an integral part begins to heal as well.

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Black and white butterfly

It is so much easier to point the finger at others, especially those awful people you see on the news every day, ranting and raving or those groups that set your teeth on edge. It is easier to blame than confront the hurt, fear, anger, abuse, depression, and sadness of your own life and family and its effects on you.

Maybe you can’t go over to the Middle East and make those people see reason and stop the violence, but you can work to heal the warring in your own family.  You can speak up to heal injustice in groups you belong to.  You can consult your heart and do what you know needs to be done to heal the web of your own life.

The healing begins within when you decide you want to be whole again. Yes, it is difficult! But what is the alternative?

You cannot escape your energy!  You must transform it!

Your transformed energy ripples outward beyond your physical boundaries and all who are connected to you will feel and respond to your new vibrations. It will inspire some to seek their own healing. Some others may not be pleased, but that’s OK, for it only takes a small percentage of people to transform their energy and create a large change in the world!

As more people find true healing, the renewed web of life transforms our Earth into a safer, more peaceful place for all living creatures to make their home.

Partnership with Source

What are you waiting for? When inspiration flows to you and through you, it is your life and Source calling you to action!

Get your body, mind and spirit moving on your soul satisfying inspired projects and ideas. Take and make the time to sustain your focus! If you have to wait, capture the flow with a note, a drawing, a reminder of the idea, then come back when you have uninterrupted quality time for yourself.

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Bird nest in Autumn

You and all living beings are in a partnership with source to bring your inspirations to concrete reality! This is what moves life forward, this is what creates a better world for each living being on the planet!

As humans you can tune your frequency to source and receive inspiration. You have been divinely created to translate what you receive into art, music, cooking, decorating, dance, writing, design, building, creating of every description…

Honor your divine partnership with source and let your inspirations flow! Begin by tuning your frequency to Source, receiving your amazing ideas based on your talents, skills and preferences.  Next map them out into plans, then decide on the action steps to take.  Finally, do the work- take the action that will move your inspired ideas into concrete reality!

Creating in divine partnership with source will satisfy your soul and bless this Earth.

Have you been touched by frost?

Late autumn frosts come with lace edged beauty, cruelly cutting down grasses and wildflowers, insects, tender life forms. But frost cannot destroy those living perennial roots deep underground that sleep in their dark bed of soil.

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Frosty wildflower leaves

If you have lived more than a few decades on this planet, you have known the icy fingers of frost. You have experienced the tender green shoots of life frozen by loss, hurt, trauma, betrayal…

When you fear all is lost after a freeze, life springs again from your roots, sending green shoots and leaves toward the light.  New life and growth and inspiration gives you new energy, new hope and courage to reclaim your power.

If your heart still beats in your chest, your roots can gather strength and you will live fully once again.

Dear one, you must have patience and allow the season of winter its full due. Take heart. Winter is a season of life, a part of each soul’s journey no matter where you live.

If you’ve been touched by frost, let yourself rest, conserve energy, let your roots gather nourishment and strength . Come spring you will feel and know the new growth within you, unfolding, reaching toward the light, inspiring you to live fully!