Holiday Traditions

Have you bitten off more than you can chew? Over committed to others, under committed to yourself? Are you running on empty?

Must you uphold tired old traditions that suck you dry, exhaust and deplete you?

Have you fallen into the “we’ve always done it this way” trap, or the “so and so expects it” trap? The guilt trap?

Do your expectations for your holiday celebrations match the reality of your needs, energy, desires and wishes?

Male cardinal in winter

Be honest with yourself and kind to yourself as you create fresh new holiday plans and loving new traditions that honor your deepest needs as an autonomous human being and a unique individual.

Do it your way!

This life you are living is yours to shape. You are the potter, life is your clay.

You can free yourself from stale and unhealthy patterns that have been built up over years of others living on autopilot.

Keep what you love, discard the rest.

Within whatever confines you find yourself this holiday season, be creative, be true to yourself.

You can celebrate the holidays in ways that honor and respect your deepest self.

Limitless potential

Every step you take is a step into the unknown. Perhaps you tread on familiar ground… But today, this moment, this step is new different from yesterday. Your thoughts and feelings are new. Many of the billions of cells of your body are new since yesterday.

As you wake each morning, you are stepping into a new day with limitless potential within the confines of your human existence.

Prairie grasses, morning light

You create your life new each morning. If you wish it, your thinking can be new, your expectations and intentions, your focus, your resistance to or allowing of the flow of source energy.

Take baby steps! Reframe your habitual state of mind one thought, one feeling, one belief at a time. If they are tired and stale, if they keep you stuck in a rut, find new thoughts to replace them.

Take heart and courage for your life’s journey. You have the power to reinvent your life each new day, each moment.

Amazing spider web

Create a blueprint of your desires. Now allow your thinking, feeling and believing to line up with your plan with slow yet steady progress.

If you find yourself back on square one, forgive yourself, then dust yourself off and begin again.

Changing your habits of thought

Are you holding on tight to ideas, grudges, unpleasant thoughts, and old stale energy?

Perhaps you don’t realize what you’re doing, don’t realize how free you could feel when you let go of the old, the habitual thoughts and ways of being that keep you stuck.

Does fear of the unknown keep you from exploring new ways of being, new energy habits, new and fresh ways to live your life?

Start small! Identify one thought that holds you back, puts you down, or describes yourself as a person you don’t want to be. Identify one way you criticize yourself. Lovingly and kingly challenge this thought in your mind each time it comes around.

Red winged blackbird
Red Winged Blackbird

Try speaking to yourself like this…“Remember, I’m learning to bring in thoughts that lift me up…” “I’m learning kind new ways to talk to myself…” “I’m moving forward in life with new supportive and loving thoughts…”

Be patient as you do this, patient and loving and kind. It takes time to change life long habits!

Like spring cleaning, cleanse away what is stale and no longer useful, the dusty and broken and unhelpful thoughts.

Bring in fresh new healthy thoughts a little at a time and you will begin feel so much better!

Obligation and duty

Do you feel obligated to carry out certain actions that others deem important?

Do you feel you must go to events chosen by others, buy and give gifts, act within the human made frameworks of rules, rituals, honor, custom, tradition, and habit?

Vine tendril

Do you follow procedures out of routine and attend ceremonies that no longer make you happy?

Do you feel trapped in endless cycles of duty that bring you no joy and keep you stuck?

It is time to look closely at your automatic responses when duty or obligation come knocking at your door. Do you feel anger, resentment, a lack of freedom, or do you feel uplifted, joyful, connected, and happy?

If you feel resentment, it’s time to gather your courage and create new habits, new thoughts, and new rituals that support and add real meaning and purpose to your life and connect you more deeply to your loved ones. And, they must bring you joy.

It is your life, dear one, and you get to make the rules and set the boundaries that work for you, create the ceremonies, choose the events and activities you enjoy.

You are the creator and designer of your life. Make it beautiful, make it uplifting, make it fun. And make it yours!