Grief

When you grieve, let yourself rest. When you grieve, let yourself be. When you grieve let yourself feel and experience the waves of emotion that move through you.

If you try to resist the waves of feeling, you may find yourself tumbled , knocked down, drowned by their unexpected and surprising power. Resistance is futile!

The only way through is to let yourself float. That is to feel what you are feeling and ride the waves of emotion as they show up. No matter how unwelcome the feelings are, let yourself feel them rise and build, crest and then drop away…

Like a chip of wood in churning water, the waves of emotion won’t drown or sink you, but take you for a wild ride that is a part of your life’s journey.

All who walk this earth in human form must at one time or another know the storms of grief. You will survive, Dear One, as you ride the waves.

Inner winter

In winter, the ice and snow and wind keep you snug at home, keep you separate in your warm wrapping of sweaters and blankets, down comforters and scarves. The roads and walks can be dangerous with slippery ice and packed snow. It can send you humans reeling and sliding with no warning… so you stay at home.

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I ask you, is there a winter in your heart that keeps you isolated and separate from others? Does this inner winter cause you to fear venturing beyond the confines of the known, the familiar, the safety of your known world?

You can turn this inner winter to spring. As you heal, you can thaw the frozen thoughts and beliefs, have patience until the poor visibility clears. You can get yourself unstuck from deep snowdrifts and move forward. You can begin to melt the ice within you that keeps you isolated and alone.

Have patience dear one, the spring thaw takes time as the weather gradually warms. When the earth is no longer frozen, the runoff permeates the thawed soil bringing new life to the earth, new hope and growth.

The deep freeze will soon be over, and you will regain your flexibility ease and flow.

Live in the light

Do you feel there is a weakness, a stigma in asking for and receiving help when you are down? Do you feel that others will judge you unworthy?

When you are grieving or sad, when anger and resentment get the better of you, when you are overwhelmed by your feelings, do you feel that you must go it alone, tough it out, grit your teeth and be tough, keep your emotions in check, put on a happy face?

Winter day, heavy clouds

You are not meant to live isolated from each other, separate, apart, trying to move mountains of grief, sadness, depression alone.

My dears, I fear this strategy will keep you stuck and unhappy, that your life will be so much smaller, duller, and grayer than it could be otherwise.

No it is not easy! But you did not come to earth in a body for a life of constant ease. You came with a purpose.

When your old baggage interferes with your true life’s purpose, when you find yourself stuck and unable to move forward, can you allow yourself to receive love and compassion?

Can you find a loving friend, caring therapist or healer to help you lighten your emotional burdens and free yourself from the weight you carry?

Allowing yourself to be vulnerable, to admit you are human, will help you get back on your true path of life lived in the light.

Monarch Butterfly and prairie flowers

When you ask for and receive help, your life can begin to shine in full color once again.

Waves of emotion

My dear beloved ones, do you flow with the rhythms, cycles and seasons of your lives, or do you resist them and run your life by the clock, the work schedule, the calendar, or the convenience of others? Life is so much easier when you allow yourself to be as nature in her ageless wisdom created you.

It feels wonderful to ride the wave of your life as it rises, crests and peaks in periods of well-being, happiness and maybe even joy…

The wave you are riding may at times dip downward into the shadows, into a place you may not have been before. Perhaps the wave takes you to a place of darkness, of strong emotions, grief, or illness.

Can you remain steadfast as you pay attention to the energy that wants and needs to move through you? Can you be still and allow yourself to feel what you feel? Can you focus on your breath and heartbeat as you feel?

(Ask for help from a healer, therapist or friend if you are feeling overwhelmed…)

In time you will rise back up into the light, renewing and recharging yourself, rediscovering your passions, reinventing your life – like a caterpillar turning into a butterfly!

It is in the nature of waves to rise and fall, then rise again.

The cycle of life comes around once more as day follows night. It can assist you in letting go of the old tired ways of being, washing through you, clearing you of the unhealthy patterns and feelings you’ve held onto. Know that, like the moon, you will move into the light once again and shine brightly!

All this is life, dear one. Hang on for the ride!

Climate change

The earth and her weather reflect her creatures; what is going on in the human heart and mind, the clouds of unexpressed emotion, the storms of toxic anger and fear, the build up of heat with no release valve, no outlet. The explosions of wars and genocide, the burden of thousand of centuries of violence, injustice, inequality, terror…

The earth reflects human pain in her own language; weather, natural disasters, tsunamis, mega storms, extremes of drought, flood and fire.  

Are you feeling weighted down by the emotional burdens of your ancestors, and your own life, anxious, nervous, depressed, unable to move forward?

What are you weather conditions? Anger storm ahead, drought, no growth, too much rain, wildfire destroying everything in its path…

Please face the truth of your life! Learn to feel your emotions, clear yourself and continue to clear as you go forward.

As more and more humans regain clarity, heal emotional burdens, let go of fear and resentments, the Earth will begin to reflect this new energy, the web of all life will be rewoven and restored.

This is what you can do to help! Heal yourself, heal the earth.

More about emotional healing

Do you get caught up in the small things, the psychic debris, the junk drawers of life that claim your focus and direct you down blind alleys, backwaters and dead ends of overthinking, worry, numbing and time wasting?

Millions of videos at your fingertips? Sugary treats? Just one more beer? Endless TV?

Dear ones, what is beneath all this? What do you send to the backroom of your heart and mind? What are you avoiding? Does your body provide clues with pain, stiffness, illness, loss of function, decreasing mental clarity? Do you find yourself stumbling, falling, breaking bones?

Feeling your feelings won’t kill you, cripple you, make you sick or weaken you. Stuffing and ignoring them will hurt you! Your feelings are meant to move and flow through you.

Find help if this seems overwhelming! You are meant to be clear and live fully!

Letting your feelings flow with empathy, understanding and self compassion will set you free!

Teach by example

Dear one, is your heart heavy with fear for others?  Do you worry about your family? 

You can help them without depleting yourself by seeing and witnessing their power, their strengths their capabilities, their talents, and reflecting this back to them in words and actions.

You are saying to them – “I know you can do this… I know you are capable… I know you can figure this out… this is what I’ve seen in you before…”  This is gentle coaching – leading by example – inspiring those around you.

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GCW in winter

Let them know you trust them to step up to the plate and do what needs to be done.  Your job is not to rescue, or save, but to be a light, to shine a light for them.

When you feel the familiar fear, go inward and feel it in your body.  It might be a tightening in your heart, a resistance in your throat, a roiling in your belly.  Pay attention to your feelings with love.  Breathe deeply for a few moments and allow yourself to be fully present to your body’s signals.

Feel your fear. “Give it your compassionate attention.” – Pema Chodron

This will help you find the courage to tune into the power within you.  Go deep into the living well of your life force and draw up the strength and fortitude and will to heal your life! Even though you feel fear, you can shine brightly and stand in your power. 

You teach by example!  Those you worried about in the past can learn to stand in their own power, reach deep within themselves and find the resources to thrive.

Fear

Has fear settled into your heart and mind? It can suck your soul right out of your body, drain your hope, distract you from your life’s purpose, rob your of happiness, turn you against your friends, sap your strength, and dim your light.

When you gain perspective on your fears, you will learn to discern the false fear of the mind that keeps you debilitated and small, and the real fear of the body and instincts that will keep you safe and help you act when real danger threatens you.

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Wary squirrel

Some would use false fear as a weapon of mass disempowerment. A weapon to keep you in line, to control and contain and diminish your spirit.

Dear ones, I ask you to gather your courage, to call back your power, the inner spiritual power that fuels your life, and look the fear right in the eye. See it for what it is – a product of the mind and ego.

Will you do what you are called to do? Will you acknowledge your fear, then speak confidently in front of a large group, travel to a foreign land, apply for a new job, or speak out when an injustice has occurred? Will you share your gifts with others even though you may be ridiculed? Will you stand up for those who are weaker than you? Will you speak your truth to the powerful?

Like the “Great and Powerful Oz”, when you pull back the curtain, you will see and know the fear for a puff of smoke that’s been magnified and blown out of proportion. You will discover that it is an illusion that will fade when brought to the light and examined.

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Monarch butterfly

You are larger than your fear! Gather your courage, spread your wings, and live fully!

Learn to feel

Dear ones, some of the humans who pass by my patch of earth seem to live trapped within dark clouds. I can sense this density, and can feel it as a vibration on the wind and air even from many hundreds of yards away.

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Heavy storm clouds

The dark clouds some carry along keep them always feeling down, wishing and wondering why they can’t feel better, feeling that they are carrying a heavy weight.

When other humans come near, they too are affected by the overcast conditions of those with heavy energy and a dark mood. Even though invisible, it has substance, a reality others can sense.

You can’t really hide. Your energy doesn’t lie!

Many of you humans have been told a lie: “Showing, feeling, and expressing emotions is an unacceptable weakness. Emotions must be suppressed.”

When you believe this lie and stuff your feelings, they just build up like storm clouds, growing denser and darker in your energy field. They do not disappear or dissolve just because you don’t like them and want to deny or ignore them. They do not miraculously vanish into thin air never to be heard from again.

Your emotions are not you – they are energy that needs to move through you.

It is vital to face these storm clouds and feel them so they can begin to move and finally dissipate. There may be turbulence ahead as you do this, so ask for help and support. As you find the courage and inner power to let yourself feel, to bring light into the dark, you will begin to feel lighter and lighter. Your health and well-being will improve.

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Clear evening sky

You are meant to be a being of light and power. For maximum health, learn to feel your emotions and let them move through you.

Clearing

Dear ones, can you clear the clutter – physical and emotional, from your life a little at a time?   If it’s built up over a long time, go slowly, get used to the feelings of space and clarity little by little.

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Yellow leaf on sunlit creek

And when I say clear the clutter, I don’t mean shove all that old stuff under the bed, under a rug, into the closet until it won’t close, or throw it in the basement or garage where you don’t have to look at it every day…

I mean deal with it!  Choose to keep, donate or throw away the stuff. Take responsibility for your space!  The energy of your life cannot flow freely in a space with piles of dusty, unused and forgotten objects.  It restricts you and hems you in…  limits your possibilities…

Take it one newspaper, one piece of clothing, one old book at a time if you need to!

When I say clear emotional clutter, I don’t mean stuff the emotions so you appear fine on the surface, or put on a happy face when you are depressed, or be nice to someone you can’t stomach… I mean one at a time, letting your emotions just be, feeling them in your body, getting used to how your emotional energy needs and wants to move through you.  Then, with courage, feel it and let it move.  You will feel more and more clear!

Don’t over do it…  go easy, a little at a time.  As you do this, your emotions will feel intense at first, then shift and dissolve and eventually you will feel more clear, lighter, less weighed down by life.  Ask for help and support if you need it!

In this way, you can heal your life!