Do you armor yourself against life’s hurts? Do you protect your vulnerable soft center from anyone seeing or knowing you fully? Have childhood experiences taught you to be tough, hold in the tears, project a calm and smiling face to the world when you feel pain and discomfort?
Your inner and outer selves must match for full happiness, full soul satisfaction, full participation in life. Be honest with yourself about what you are feeling and thinking, if only privately. You separate yourself from source when you pretend to feel something you do not feel.
Do you present a strong and tough image to others when you feel weak and scared inside? Do you put on a happy and smiling face when you feel sad or angry or threatened? Do you act interested when you are checked out, outraged when you really don’t care, indifferent when you care passionately, loving and kind when you want to scream and throw things…?
When you lie to yourself, others will sense the falsehood because your energy doesn’t lie and cannot ever lie! Others will sense what is true beneath the surface show, and respect you more when you allow the real you to shine through in your words and actions.
When you know and live the truth of who you are, you pave the way for real lasting relationships based on reality, not on an illusion that requires you to expend great effort to keep up, like the “great and powerful” Wizard of Oz.