A Practice for Connecting with Your Inner Child

In this practice, you will be going inward and meeting yourself as a newborn infant…

Find a quiet place where you can relax and just be for a little while. Tune into your breath and your heartbeat. Settle comfortably into your chair or cushion

Now with your inner vision, bring up a picture of yourself as you currently are, your fully grown self. Send yourself heartfelt love for the person you are and the person you are becoming, heartfelt empathy for the challenges you face, the mistakes you’ve made, and heartfelt acceptance for yourself, flaws and all.

Let go of your logical mind for a while and allow yourself to roll back in time to the day you were born.

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Now see your current self lovingly lift up and hold your newborn infant self, cradling him or her gently to your beating heart. You might imagine yourself rubbing their tiny back with the flat of your palm. Perhaps you can feel the velvety softness of the newborn’s skin and hair. Can you see and feel the perfection of ears, fingers and toes?

Smell their scent, Feel and see the perfection, the expansion of spirit in this completely unique, beautiful and tender being.

Do you sense your newborn’s complete trust in you and in the new life they’ve chosen? Can you allow your heart to open with love and tenderness for the tiny but mighty being you were?

As you hold your newborn self in this healing place inside yourself, consider what promises your current self will make to your infant self. What stories will you tell him or her about your life? What will you tell this precious being her about who he or she is. What qualities will you recognize in this beautiful infant? How will you care for and protect your tender inner child?

Spend the time you need reconnecting with yourself on the day you entered this life. When you are finished, put your infant back to sleep and return to the here and now. Tap your cheekbones and the center of your chest to ground yourself in the present. Take a few deep breaths. Notice how you feel now.

In the sacred place deep within your heart, you have the power to soothe and heal your inner child.

Light and Dark

Sunlight and shadow reveal and conceal. You can hide in the shadows, draw forward into the light, recede into the shifting patterns of sunlight and shadow on the forest floor.

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You cannot hold light and dark in your hands and possess them. Where does one end and the other begin? Would we know what light is without dark, or dark without light?

Without night we would not know the moon and stars. Without day we would not know cooling shade on a hot summer afternoon, or the shape of things.

Get to know the dark in you, the light in you, where they intersect. Do you try to suppress the shadows you fear in yourself and spend your time in perpetual light?

Do you stay in the shadows of life at the margins, fearing the clarity light will bring? Do you feel unequal to sharing your talents and gifts under the spotlight of divine grace?

Do you conceal what you perceive as flaws and hide them in the shadows, or conceal your gifts and powers, keeping them hidden from the light?

For in accepting the light and dark of you, you learn to accept yourself unconditionally, to love yourself fully.

Trust yourself

Did your parents, teachers, aunts & uncles, grandparents ever encourage you to trust yourself? To trust the knowings of your heart, the inner hopes and dreams for your life, your intuitions, and instincts about other people, your certainty about what activities you wanted to pursue, what your inborn interests and talents were?

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Or, were you told to be nice, to smile when you didn’t want to, to fit in and not rock the boat, to worry about what the neighbors might think, to suck it up and get along?

Dear ones, if so, you were betrayed! Now it is time for you to reclaim and regain your own power, your trust in yourself and your intuitions, preferences, your inner knowings, your autonomy, your mastery of your life.

Begin little by little to tune into your inner voice, your wise and loving spirit, your indestructible soul and the wisdom and power of your heart.

You will find your truth within your heart, not outside yourself with any teacher, guru, mentor, parental figure.

Yes, parents teachers and mentors are needed at certain times in life, to help mirror the best in you, to help you learn skills and boundaries, to learn love, to keep you safe. The best of them assist you in learning to trust the innate wisdom of your heart and soul and tap into your inner power and riches.

Look within and know that you can trust the knowings of your heart mind and soul.

Trusting yourself is loving yourself.

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Does fear reside in your body? Where do you feel it? It is in your gut, heart heart… do you feel it in your throat?

Are there other emotions that live in your body?

Can you sit with this and notice what happens as you tune into the feeling? What happens in your body? What happens to the feeling as you sit quietly noticing it in your heart, your stomach, your jaw…?

Take the time, make space In your life to truly love yourself. Feel your feelings with compassion, without judging or trying to control anything.

It is safe to feel! If it frightens you, ask for help on your healing path. Do this in private or with a trusted friend, healer or counselor.

No frowning adult will punish or make fun of you for crying sobbing, or feeling your true feelings as someone might have done when you were a child…

To live at your full capacity, it is vital to feel what is moving through you, to allow the energy of emotion to pass through your body like ocean waves. All waves start small, build and build, finally peak, then release and dissolve into the water around them.

When you learn to accept and feel your emotions, you are learning self love!

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Note from Betty: Dear friends, GCW has a lot to say about emotional healing this month. This and the next two posts are variations on that theme.

Dear ones, do not carry the past forward, for it will accumulate and pile up like thunderheads on a windy spring day. It will weigh you down more and more as you grow older.

Let each moment of your life be new. Let the moments of yesterday, last year, decades ago be healed and released. Do not carry the old stale feelings forward for they will taint your present moments.

To let them go, feel them, experience them for that is to live fully in the moment. Listen to your body, do a scan and notice where you feel the emotion. It could be your throat, heart, gut… anywhere.

There is no need to blast a person you are angry with. Anger and other strong emotions need not be harmful to you or others. Use it as fuel for a passionate life!

Love yourself and feel what you feel. You can use your voice to express the emotion, to safely and privately release.

If you let yourself experience your emotions in your body then you will not carry it forward into your future as a dark storm cloud waiting to burst when you least expect it.

Let each moment of your life be sacred as you pay attention to what you are feeling with compassion and self love.

Inner/Outer

Dear ones, it is an immutable law of the universe – Your inner world – what you feel inside, the emotions you allow into your consciousness and those you suppress are all reflected in your outer world. Look to the people in your life, the environment, the weather, your neighborhood, your job…everything – as mirrors to the inner you.

Do you dislike what you see around you? Do you want a change? Go inward first. Are you surrounded by unpleasant people? Go inside and befriend the unpleasant part of you – or shall I say the part you think is unpleasant. The part you’ve hidden under layers of “nice”.

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Shine the light of love on that rejected part of you. You cannot find true peace unless you embrace your entire being – the spectrum of emotions, the light and shadow. You are whole and complete only when you embrace the parts of you that you worry are not nice, ugly, frustrated, without courage, weak, hurt, sad….

Make friends, true, deep and abiding friends with yourself. Treat yourself as you would a dear beloved  companion. Do this by witnessing your flaws, your full spectrum of feelings, shining the light of love in the dark places, accepting them as part of you.

Your survival no longer depends on your being “good” or “nice” or “perfect”. It depends on your being real.

This is only a test

This is only a test!  Will you trust yourself, your inner voice, your true guidance when others around you choose differently? If not, more chances to follow your guidance will be provided.

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This is only a test: Will you love, honor, cherish and accept yourself body & soul when others ask you to violate your ideals? If not, more chances and opportunities to be a person of integrity will be given to you.

This is only a test: Will you stay aligned with your light when circumstances seem to be pulling you into the shadows with magnetic force? If not this time, all-that-is will provide another chance, and another and another to live up to your light.

There is much to learn, fellow earth dwellers. Allow yourselves the gifts of patience, commitment, courage and willingness to take yet another chance on yourself. Learn new ways of being thinking and doing that will light up your life in breathtaking ways.

This is only a test! You are dearly loved and you can never be separated from that love which some call all-that-is. All-that-is is love. All-that-is is patience. All-that-is believes in you. All-that-is will never give up on you.

You can weather any storm

Cut through the clutter and chatter; penetrate the clouds and debris of your life, physical, mental, emotional for your health and well-being.

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Sunshine through thick clouds

Just as your home and surroundings benefit from a clearing and cleaning, so does your energy atmosphere. It might seem impossible to let go of stale old emotions left over from the past, holding you prisoner. You can release them and move forward with new lightness of being.

To do this takes courage self compassion and commitment to your well-being. Get help if you need it as you access, feel and give compassionate attention to the feelings that arise in you.

These feelings are energy.   You will feel them in your body,  feel them moving. Some of them may feel overpowering, like a thunder storm rolling through. Do not fear, dear ones every storm passes in time. Gather your courage and stay with it. Persevere.

Stay with the emotion, become a compassionate observer as it rises, floods, crests and dissipates. Feel its presence in your body without judgment. Allow it to be as it is and in time it will shift and change and lighten as you cease resistance. After a storm all the earth is cleansed, refreshed and ready to grow!

Know this! You are strong, powerful, capable. You can weather any storm. You can heal.

Self love

Beloved ones… Love yourself as never before. Give yourself the care, the attention, the nurturing and compassion you would give to your best friend or loved one.

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Stand tall:  Cottonwood

Dearest, you may not have gotten the care you needed to thrive in earlier days, but you can supply and become your own ideal mother or father and give yourself what they could not. You can cease your hungry striving after an elusive “love” that is “out there” somewhere and discover it within your heart’s own capacity.

Build the muscle of self love as you give yourself kindness, as you pay attention to how you feel, as you accept your feelings without judgment, as you gradually wean yourself from critical self talk and mean expectations, as you simply allow yourself to be who you are- imperfect and human.

Beloved, in your imagination see yourself as your own loving parent, holding, rocking, loving, feeding, attending to the precious child you once were. Give yourself kindness, give yourself loving attention. Allow your younger self to feel your calming heartbeat, your loving arms, the security and trust of comfort and love freely given.