For empaths

Are you feeling the weight of the anxiety and fear you’ve inherited from your ancestors, that you pick up from your neighbors, friends, people who drive by your home, customers in the store you’ve entered, in the library stacks just opposite you, those closed in with you on the plane…

Do you soak in the anxiety and fear from the news, feel the victim’s pain, the anger, fear, and outrage the media amplifies?

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Your true light is dimmed by the clouds of stuffed emotion you pick up from others as an empath.

Dear ones, it is not your job, your responsibility or your duty to take on and feel the feelings of any others! You are to live your life, not that of others. It is your job to feel your own feelings, to to know yourself and shine your light.

When you strengthen the tapestry of your aura and ground your energy to the earth, it will be easier to filter out the random energies of others. When you discern the energy you are feeling is not yours, ask it to drain into the Earth for recycling.

If you feel it is important, you can teach those close to you to begin to feel their own emotions. Where do they show up in the body? Describe the sensation in the body. What sense is activated? Name the emotions if possible.

This is a new skill for many, so patience is called for. If it is too overwhelming, they may need a healer or therapist.

If your family, friends, loved ones cannot or don’t want to learn to feel their own feelings, remember, it is not your job to do it for them! Perhaps they will eventually be ready to heal, but do not hold your breath.

Grandmother Cottonwood

Maintain energetic and emotional boundaries and keep yourself clear and whole. This is your mission above all else.

In this way you help keep our world healthy and allow your light to shine to the full extent.

Waves of emotion

My dear beloved ones, do you flow with the rhythms, cycles and seasons of your lives, or do you resist them and run your life by the clock, the work schedule, the calendar, or the convenience of others? Life is so much easier when you allow yourself to be as nature in her ageless wisdom created you.

It feels wonderful to ride the wave of your life as it rises, crests and peaks in periods of well-being, happiness and maybe even joy…

The wave you are riding may at times dip downward into the shadows, into a place you may not have been before. Perhaps the wave takes you to a place of darkness, of strong emotions, grief, or illness.

Can you remain steadfast as you pay attention to the energy that wants and needs to move through you? Can you be still and allow yourself to feel what you feel? Can you focus on your breath and heartbeat as you feel?

(Ask for help from a healer, therapist or friend if you are feeling overwhelmed…)

In time you will rise back up into the light, renewing and recharging yourself, rediscovering your passions, reinventing your life – like a caterpillar turning into a butterfly!

It is in the nature of waves to rise and fall, then rise again.

The cycle of life comes around once more as day follows night. It can assist you in letting go of the old tired ways of being, washing through you, clearing you of the unhealthy patterns and feelings you’ve held onto. Know that, like the moon, you will move into the light once again and shine brightly!

All this is life, dear one. Hang on for the ride!

More about emotional healing

Do you get caught up in the small things, the psychic debris, the junk drawers of life that claim your focus and direct you down blind alleys, backwaters and dead ends of overthinking, worry, numbing and time wasting?

Millions of videos at your fingertips? Sugary treats? Just one more beer? Endless TV?

Dear ones, what is beneath all this? What do you send to the backroom of your heart and mind? What are you avoiding? Does your body provide clues with pain, stiffness, illness, loss of function, decreasing mental clarity? Do you find yourself stumbling, falling, breaking bones?

Feeling your feelings won’t kill you, cripple you, make you sick or weaken you. Stuffing and ignoring them will hurt you! Your feelings are meant to move and flow through you.

Find help if this seems overwhelming! You are meant to be clear and live fully!

Letting your feelings flow with empathy, understanding and self compassion will set you free!

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Does fear reside in your body? Where do you feel it? It is in your gut, heart heart… do you feel it in your throat?

Are there other emotions that live in your body?

Can you sit with this and notice what happens as you tune into the feeling? What happens in your body? What happens to the feeling as you sit quietly noticing it in your heart, your stomach, your jaw…?

Take the time, make space In your life to truly love yourself. Feel your feelings with compassion, without judging or trying to control anything.

It is safe to feel! If it frightens you, ask for help on your healing path. Do this in private or with a trusted friend, healer or counselor.

No frowning adult will punish or make fun of you for crying sobbing, or feeling your true feelings as someone might have done when you were a child…

To live at your full capacity, it is vital to feel what is moving through you, to allow the energy of emotion to pass through your body like ocean waves. All waves start small, build and build, finally peak, then release and dissolve into the water around them.

When you learn to accept and feel your emotions, you are learning self love!

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Note from Betty: Dear friends, GCW has a lot to say about emotional healing this month. This and the next two posts are variations on that theme.

Dear ones, do not carry the past forward, for it will accumulate and pile up like thunderheads on a windy spring day. It will weigh you down more and more as you grow older.

Let each moment of your life be new. Let the moments of yesterday, last year, decades ago be healed and released. Do not carry the old stale feelings forward for they will taint your present moments.

To let them go, feel them, experience them for that is to live fully in the moment. Listen to your body, do a scan and notice where you feel the emotion. It could be your throat, heart, gut… anywhere.

There is no need to blast a person you are angry with. Anger and other strong emotions need not be harmful to you or others. Use it as fuel for a passionate life!

Love yourself and feel what you feel. You can use your voice to express the emotion, to safely and privately release.

If you let yourself experience your emotions in your body then you will not carry it forward into your future as a dark storm cloud waiting to burst when you least expect it.

Let each moment of your life be sacred as you pay attention to what you are feeling with compassion and self love.

You can feel better!

Over the years of your life, energy, inspirations, emotions, feelings, ideas, thoughts, fears that you block and deny and push down have nowhere else to go but to stay in your energy field. The energies that makes up these thoughts get stuck, build up and accumulate like heavy storm clouds.

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Storm clouds and prairie grasses

If you are sensitive, you feel the extra weight, the heaviness. Does it hold you back, press you down like a weighted blanket, a back pack full of stones?

It is not your work to carry this weight. You can clear and release it with patience, courage, commitment.

Foreign substances in your body will not solve the problem, will not clear the clouds, but only allow you to pretend for a short time.

Tap into your emotions, the buried ones, the old and stale ones, the emotions that flash through when something triggers you. You must focus and feel the emotions within you. You do not have to react to them. Simply feeling and acknowledging is enough.

The emotion is not you, it is energy that is meant to flow through you.  I am telling you, you can feel better!

Find help if the emotions feel overwhelming. It is like learning to walk, learning to read. This is a life-saving skill you can learn, and it will set you free.

You can feel better!

You were not plunked down here in this time and place to feel bad or to suffer.

Do these habits of mind and feeling persist in you? Do you hold on to them like a talisman? You can begin to heal and release those thoughts that bring you down. You can let go of your death grip on the image of yourself as powerless and depressed.

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New grass shoots after a fire

Can you learn little by little to tolerate the higher frequencies of feeling better, feeling good, of laughter, fun and joy? They may seem exhausting foreign, forbidden, but they are your gifts, freely bestowed by virtue of your life here on this earth.

Do not try to move mountains, start small with baby steps.  Begin each day by intending to feel good in small ways.

When the frequencies of fear and dread overwhelm you, do what you might thing is counter-intuitive and allow them to be, feel and experience them in your body. Breathe. Name them. You simply acknowledge with love, and observe without judgment.

In this way you cease resisting the negative and that removes its power supply. The energy will shift and change allowing room for new feelings to fill you. You get to choose your new feelings! Ask daily to feel good.

Focus on those feelings, thoughts, and people that lift you up.

Are you highly sensitive?

Some of you are blessed with the ability to feel what others feel, to pick up the tiny hints and clues of actions yet to occur, to feel or see the subtle energies of others.

You may carry the cares of the world on your shoulders, weighed down with sorrow and pain and anxiety that are not your own. In this way your greatest gift becomes a burden, and your life is not under your own control.

Please know dear ones, that you can manage your gifts and sensitivities without carrying and feeling the grief of others.

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Winter trees, snowy day

When you feel overwhelmed and know it is not yours, send blessings and love to the sufferers whoever and wherever they may be. Then imagine yourself shutting a door or a window, or pulling a curtain that will keep your energy with you and theirs with them.

Perhaps you felt as a child you could help others by carrying their feelings. Know this! It is not your job to carry the weight of the world on your back. You can keep yourself clear and free of collective anxiety! Your job is to feel and manage your own feelings.

If you are called to help others, you may teach others to manage their own feelings, to become literate in the language of emotion so the earth may become a more peaceful and happier place for all to live.

Educational needs

Remember at this time when your precious little ones go to school. They need so much more than food for thought, coloring within the lines, math worksheets and memorization drills.

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Girl and her fairy house

Within each child is a universe of emotion, feeling, and sensations. If you ignore their emotional literacy you ignore the greater, most powerful educational requirement in life!

I recommend a daily allowance of 5- 10 minutes for a feelings check in: How do you feel today? Where do you it in your body? Can you tune into that feeling and that place inside you and just listen feel and notice and breathe?

There is no right or wrong! No red pen writing comments, no colored star, no check marks, no frowny or smiley faces. Just feeling, knowing and accepting the inner truth.

Help your children learn the most important lesson of life as you learn it along with them. Do it together!

Grandmother Cottonwood’s prescription for all humans, especially children: Tune in to how you feel. Name the feelings. Notice your feelings and emotions in your body. Feel them. Pay attention!

Book learning and heart wisdom

As you have gained in book learning, – “the 3 Rs” science, and technology, you have forgotten and minimized the ancient and powerful wisdom of your heart.

What good is your technical knowledge if you are seething with anger and rage? Who cares if you can recite a speech, a pledge, an epic poem if you have no empathy and compassion for your fellow earth inhabitants? Who cares that you have statistical “proof” that all is well when you feel unhappy, heartsick and physically ill?

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Grandmother Cottonwood

Emotional wisdom is far more important to your survival as a species than book learning. Feel the emotion in your body, name it, put your awareness on it. Breathe and feel.

It won’t bite. I might make you feel uncomfortable. Can you live with uncomfortable? Do you want to numb the discomfort? Try to stay with it. If you can’t, find someone who can help you through this.

Be your own best friend! Accept the feelings as they come and go. If you reject an emotion you reject yourself. Love and accept yourselves and allow your feelings to be what they are. Learn from them.

True riches, the infinite fountain of abundance are only to be found by those who look inward with compassion and courage.

It takes your so called guts to live a beautiful life here on this planet where uncertainty reigns, where nothing is guaranteed, where life is exquisitely beautiful, where death is a given.